Bonus Ep 64 - Partner Priorities: A Fun Relationship Exercise
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Charlie:
Hello and welcome to the British English Podcast. Today's episode is a bitesize one and I am with my wife. We are in a new room, so it's all very exciting, isn't it?
Stacy:
It is.
Charlie:
Hello, darling.
Stacy:
Hello.
Charlie:
How are you?
Stacy:
I'm good, thank you. How are you?
Charlie:
I'm good. It's a Friday night. I've just done quite a long day of work, in my opinion. Uh, you've just cycled back from the gym. It's getting into cycle season for you.
Stacy:
It is.
Charlie:
Yeah. You're a fair weather cycler.
Stacy:
I am definitely a fair weather cycler.
Charlie:
Yeah. And today we are going to be going over a partner priorities list because my friend Amy, our friend Amy.
Stacy:
Our friend.
Charlie:
Um, she did this, and she told us that it would be a good idea to do. And I was like, let's do it on the podcast.
Stacy:
I think she did it as part of her pre-marriage counselling. She's just about to get married.
Charlie:
Oh, right.
Stacy:
Um, and because she's getting married in a church, I think this is like part of making sure they share the same values before they go into marital.
Charlie:
So it's probably not. But then.
Stacy:
We're too late for this.
Charlie:
It's too late?
Stacy:
We should have done this about a year ago.
Charlie:
We couldn't even get an annulment now, could we?
Stacy:
Um, no, I'm not sure.
Charlie:
Not sure.
Stacy:
Is it a year? I think no, no, I think now it would be a divorce.
Charlie:
Oh.
Stacy:
Not an annulment.
Charlie:
And that costs quite a lot, doesn't it?
Stacy:
Yes.
Charlie:
I can't afford it then. I'm stuck with you. Um, so the the game is, um, listing the nine priorities or nine, um, values, basically.
Stacy:
Yes. So we got given the list.
Charlie:
Yes. We got given a list of nine values. And we have to privately choose our priority list from 1 to 9. And then we see each other's and we compare and we see if we were at all compatible or not.
Stacy:
Yes. So I think the idea is that we would be semi aligned on our list. We should somewhat be prioritising similar things.
Charlie:
Okay, okay.
Stacy:
If we're not, we're in trouble.
Charlie:
Nice. So the list is honesty, ambition, children, as in you want to have children.
Stacy:
That's how I took it. I hope.
Charlie:
Uh, humour.
Stacy:
Uh-uh.
Charlie:
Looks.
Stacy:
Mm-hm.
Charlie:
Intelligence.
Stacy:
Mm-hm.
Charlie:
Money. As in they have money or they, they like money?
Stacy:
Um I, I took it as they make money.
Charlie:
Okay. Um, yes. That's the other option, isn't it?
Stacy:
Yeah.
Charlie:
Uh, occupation?
Stacy:
Uh-huh.
Charlie:
And then sex. I don't understand this three word. Three letter word.
Stacy:
I know, what is it?
Charlie:
I'm not sure.
Stacy:
Huh?
Charlie:
Uh, so that's the list. And we've already chosen ours.
Stacy:
Yes.
Charlie:
Um, how would you like to share it? Would you like? I think you send it to my WhatsApp and I send it to your WhatsApp so we can both see it and we go through it together.
Stacy:
No, I think.
Charlie:
I'd say I love marriage.
Stacy:
I think we should say the first one.
Charlie:
Oh say our first one out loud.
Stacy:
Yeah.
Charlie:
Oh okay.
Stacy:
Now like after like a one, two, three. What's number one.
Charlie:
That's good, that's good. Yeah. But. Before we go into this number one.
Stacy:
Yeah.
Charlie:
Um. It was a bit confusing for me because this is a partner list, and I've been with you since 2014, 15?
Stacy:
12? We met in 2012.
Charlie:
Hahaha. No, we met in 2012. But we weren't officially living together.
Stacy:
No. We started living together in 2015.
Charlie:
In a proper relationship and...So.
Stacy:
Yeah.
Charlie:
That was me at 25. I met you when I was 22.
Stacy:
Yeah.
Charlie:
And I'm looking at this list thinking, what did I think of you then? Because when I was that old, I was very different to what I am now.
Stacy:
I have written the list for today. Like how we feel today.
Charlie:
Oh, so you're back on the market.
Stacy:
Yeah.
Charlie:
Ah.
Stacy:
I haven't written it like when we first got together. That would be very different. Yeah, the order would be very different.
Charlie:
Mhm. Okay.
Stacy:
Money and sex would be at the top.
Charlie:
Right.
Stacy:
Do you need to rejig your answers?
Charlie:
We'll see. We'll see.
Stacy:
Okay.
Charlie:
Okay. So number one.
Stacy:
Oh hang on, I need to find it. Also I've got a bone to pick with this list.
Charlie:
Oh yeah?
Stacy:
Yeah. Their... I don't think it's a very good list.
Charlie:
Oh.
Stacy:
I think we can.
Charlie:
Yeah I mean where's reasonable in there?
Stacy:
Yeah. So I mean, if I were to redo the list, kindness would be number one.
Charlie:
Oh, yeah you like kindness.
Stacy:
But it's not on the list.
Charlie:
Okay. Alright. Let's, let's get to it. So number one. 3-2-1.
Both:
Honesty.
Charlie:
Oh my God. That was the same answer. Oh darling.
Stacy:
Honesty kind of is the most similar to kindness as well in a way.
Charlie:
Yes but I felt like honesty. For me, it's a given.
Stacy:
I almost needed to be reminded of it via this list.
Charlie:
Right.
Stacy:
To be like, oh, that's a thing that maybe some people don't have. And that was like, sad to think that some people don't have honesty in their relationship.
Charlie:
We do have a great amount of honesty.
Stacy:
We have too much honesty.
Charlie:
Yeah.
Stacy:
But I like it.
Charlie:
You're more honest than me.
Stacy:
No, you're more honest.
Charlie:
No.
Stacy:
Yeah.
Charlie:
No, no, because you you get away with saying stuff and then I say it and then you cry.
Stacy:
What do you mean?
Charlie:
Well, if you say I don't look good, I have to accept that.
Stacy:
Oh, we're talking about different kinds of honesty. That's just mean.
Charlie:
Oh, but you say it like you need to know.
Stacy:
Yeah, well, you know, you can't be offending me when it's my time of the month.
Charlie:
Oh, right. Okay.
Stacy:
Number two.
Charlie:
Alright. I'm gonna change it slightly.
Stacy:
Okay.
Charlie:
Okay. So number two. 3-2-1.
Stacy:
Ambition.
Charlie:
Looks.
Stacy:
Well.
Charlie:
That's a compliment.
Stacy:
That is a compliment. Thanks.
Charlie:
So you think ambition.
Stacy:
Wow. Looks isn't.
Charlie:
But but at the beginning of dating.
Stacy:
Oh. Yeah, well, I'm not going by the beginning.
Charlie:
If you're if you're looking at your ideal partner, you're out on the market.
Stacy:
Yeah, but again.
Charlie:
You're looking at me thinking like.
Stacy:
I didn't.
Charlie:
What do I think of what I like or what I want from this guy 15 years into the relationship?
Stacy:
Yes. But I maybe I understood the assignment wrong and I was just putting it as what we value now. And I think other people like Kim and Hugo, my brother and his partner just did this as well, and they did it based on their current situation.
Charlie:
Okay, I would I would probably put ambition second then. If I.
Stacy:
Really?
Charlie:
Yeah, yeah I would. I'm just looking at the other list, the other stuff and you're not doing. Joking. Sort of. Um, but I know I still think looks is. Yeah.
Stacy:
Yeah. Okay. Well that's nice. Thanks.
Charlie:
Yeah.
Stacy:
Looks is not very high on my list.
Charlie:
Ahh. Didn't really want to hear that. That's a bit rude. See what I mean? She can do it, but I can't. Honesty is a one way road in our relationship.
Stacy:
I think it is with most male female relationships.
Charlie:
Okay, okay. Alright. Number three.
Stacy:
Yeah. Oh. Hang on. Which one? Yeah. Number three.
Charlie:
Number three. Three. Two. One.
Stacy:
Humour.
Charlie:
Ambition. Yeah. Oh, humour.
Stacy:
Yeah.
Charlie:
Oh! What? Me. Nah. Get out!
Stacy:
I put it up here to remind you that I value it, and it's important. So please.
Charlie:
Uh! You! So Stacy annoys me a lot in in the way that our relationship is. So I, I think I try to be funny with other friends, but our relationship, it kind of ends up you just poking me in the bum and then you laugh and that's. And then I have to play this sort of, oh, don't do that sassy sort of response. And that is basically a metaphor for our relationship in, in around humour. You doing slapstick shit and I have to respond one way or another.
Stacy:
Yeah, yeah. I'm not disagreeing.
Charlie:
Okay, okay. Um, so you did that. I did ambition. Alright. Next one.
Stacy:
Okay. So so what number are we on? Four.
Charlie:
Four.
Stacy:
Okay.
Charlie:
Okay.
Stacy:
Hang on. You have to do a 3-2-1 countdown.
Charlie:
Yeah.
Stacy:
Are you putting sex?
Charlie:
See, I put sex second.
Stacy:
Wow.
Charlie:
But I put it there thinking this is me on the market.
Stacy:
Early on. Uh, we should have talked about this. We should have been really honest about our expectations for this episode.
Charlie:
That would be more transparent. I would say.
Stacy:
Oh, okay.
Charlie:
We are honest.
Stacy:
Yeah.
Charlie:
Still.
Stacy:
Yeah.
Charlie:
But yeah. Um, okay. So then I would put sex.
Stacy:
Okay. I've got intelligence.
Charlie:
Intelligence.
Stacy:
And actually this one.
Charlie:
It's good though. I give you loads of fun facts that you don't remember. And then a year later you tell me somebody else told you that, and you're like, did you know this? Oh, that annoys me.
Stacy:
I was gonna say that with intelligence, I don't think that I was aware that this was important to me until probably.
Charlie:
You met me?
Stacy:
No. Until maybe the last few years, where I've been more aware of conversations. And I think sometimes when conversations have, like, a depth of intelligence, I am really fascinated and I do like it when you tell me things that I...
Charlie:
Forget.
Stacy:
Find very interesting and that I don't know, and that you have a a heightened level of intelligence for many topics. And I like that.
Charlie:
Wow.
Stacy:
Yeah.
Charlie:
I'm impressed by all this. I'm... Making me a bit shy.
Stacy:
Are you blushing?
Charlie:
Yeah. Yeah, I actually am. It is the headphone. They are quite hot, but. Yeah. Nice. Appreciate that.
Stacy:
Um, so sex was number number four for yours?
Charlie:
Well, it was number two then it went down to four.
Stacy:
Okay, so I have a bone to pick with sex being on the list, but I guess if if this is an early on in the relationship, then that's fine. I was going to say.
Charlie:
Why is sex even a thing.
Stacy:
I think sex should be replaced with a word intimacy.
Charlie:
I like it.
Stacy:
Then that would be much higher up on my list because I value intimacy very highly. But sex itself, give or take.
Charlie:
Oh, come on, don't say that. I've got to air this stuff.
Stacy:
But intimacy. We love intimacy.
Charlie:
I'm really red now. Oh, God. Okay. Number five.
Stacy:
Number five.
Charlie:
I think. Yeah, yeah. Number five. Right. One, two, three, four five.
Stacy:
We're not doing very well.
Charlie:
No, we're doing terribly, but let's keep going. Okay. So number five in 3-2-1 intelligence.
Stacy:
Looks.
Charlie:
Looks is number five for you. Great. Intelligence number five for me.
Stacy:
See, I don't think I care about looks.
Charlie:
That's awful. Further down the list.
Stacy:
Yeah.
Charlie:
It's really just saying... It's not nice.
Stacy:
No, it was hard. I mulled over this for quite a while.
Charlie:
Brutal, actually. Okay.
Stacy:
But I, just to say.
Charlie:
I appreciate, like I appreciate that we both don't have children yet.
Stacy:
Yeah.
Charlie:
In the top five.
Stacy:
And my brother and his partner, children was both their number one.
Charlie:
Number one.
Stacy:
Yeah.
Charlie:
Actually, Hugo had always wanted to be a dad.
Stacy:
Yeah. Yeah, yeah. Um, just to say that looks is, I guess, a little bit further down my list because although I see, I think looks is very important to begin with. But again, I think this was just something I take for granted. You look...
Charlie:
Oh cool. Good, good.
Stacy:
You look quite nice and I like the way you look, and therefore I didn't need to.
Charlie:
It's it's hard when it's staring you in the face.
Stacy:
I know.
Charlie:
It's hard to appreciate.
Stacy:
Yeah.
Charlie:
The value of it.
Stacy:
Of such looks.
Charlie:
You know, we don't we don't really appreciate that we have clean water, accessible water unless there's a parasite in it. Um, I don't know.
Stacy:
Is that an example of something intelligent you told me today?
Charlie:
Yes. Yes, it is actually.
Stacy:
But then again, your your intelligence is just regurgitating, regurgitating ChatGPT.
Charlie:
No.
Stacy:
Yes.
Charlie:
Somewhat. No No no no no no no no.
Stacy:
Are you well read?
Charlie:
I'm well listened. I listened to a lot of podcasts. Um, not just mine. Alright. The next one.
Stacy:
Number...
Charlie:
Number six. 3456.3-2-1. Humour.
Stacy:
Money.
Charlie:
See, I think money, occupation, maybe ambition and children, they're. I think they're not so... Actually, no ambition, maybe not. But those three I would say if they're on the bottom of the list, it's not rude, but anything else is. Well, maybe it's just subjective, but I feel like me saying humour at the bottom of the list is a bit rude to you, isn't it?
Stacy:
Yeah, it is, because I'm really funny.
Charlie:
Yeah, you really know how to make me laugh.
Stacy:
I do, I make you laugh every single day.
Charlie:
Do you think?
Stacy:
Yeah, absolutely. Every single day that you have spent with me, you have laughed because of me.
Charlie:
I laughed a lot the other day when you fell down that hole. She was running along with our dog. Our sausage dog. Don't need to run with a sausage dog.
Stacy:
She loves to run! She's so excited when you run with her.
Charlie:
I looked away, I looked back and she was on the floor. She was rolling around.
Stacy:
There was a hole!
Charlie:
And there was a hole in the field.
Stacy:
Yeah.
Charlie:
Completely took you out.
Stacy:
Yeah.
Charlie:
Another fond memory of mine is when we went paddling, uh, paddle boarding.
Stacy:
Why are you mentioning this?
Charlie:
Just humour. You make me laugh.
Stacy:
No. This is you laughing at my.
Charlie:
Well, that's how I laugh every day.
Stacy:
Injuries. While making a fool of myself. I make you laugh all the time.
Charlie:
Really?
Stacy:
Yeah.
Charlie:
What? Not at you?
Stacy:
No.
Charlie:
Oh right?
Stacy:
Yeah.
Charlie:
Okay.
Stacy:
I give you lots.
Charlie:
Just mention it next time.
Stacy:
Okay.
Charlie:
Just call me out on it. Be interested.
Stacy:
Give you a reminder.
Charlie:
Do you want me to tell people about the paddleboarding?
Stacy:
No, no, you can if you want to.
Charlie:
Have I told it on this? I don't think so.
Stacy:
Uh, you might have done.
Charlie:
We have come to the end of part one, so feel free to take a break from your listening practice, but if you're happy to keep going, then we're now moving on to part two of this episode. Thanks so much for being a premium or Academy member and enjoy the rest of the show.
Charlie:
It's worth saying again.
Stacy:
Just in case. It might make a good-
Charlie:
We were in a little river in Germany.
Stacy:
Mhm.
Charlie:
Stacy said you've got to come paddleboarding. I was a bit dubious, a bit unsure about this activity.
Stacy:
Mhm.
Charlie:
But I was up for it. You got me on and they were quite substantial paddle boards and so you said you don't need to take your shoes off. So we had our shoes on.
Stacy:
Yeah.
Charlie:
I thought this was weird because I thought we would be going in the river at some point. So we both had our trainers on, on these paddle boards going down the river. You were ahead of me. I was behind you. You were taking in the views, I imagine, and I was still learning the ropes, still figuring out what going forward means. Going left, going right, how to stop. I hadn't quite figured out that one. How to stop. And you know when something's happening and you just don't really react to it. That was kind of what was happening for me. I could see that my board was coming closer and closer and closer to your the tail of your board, very slowly.
Stacy:
Yeah.
Charlie:
But you were standing up looking the other way. Little nudge. All it did. All. All it needed. And that caused you to stumble back, trip over yourself, fall backwards over your head. Roly poly backwards over the sur- over the paddle board into the water. Submerge fully. Come back up looking like a drowned rat. Grabbed the paddle board and then your bikini came off. So you were looking up at me like a drowned rat with your tits out, going, what did you do that for? Oh. To this day, that still makes me laugh. So yes, you do make me laugh every day.
Stacy:
Do I just need to remind you of that story every day? Okay. Well. You're welcome.
Charlie:
Yeah.
Stacy:
Yeah. Not my finest moment.
Charlie:
Okay.
Stacy:
Yes. We've been 20 minutes, though.
Charlie:
Okay.
Stacy:
Um, it doesn't need to be a lot of money, but I value a moderate, like, a modest amount of money, I think.
Charlie:
Okay.
Stacy:
You need to earn something because I don't think it would be a good dynamic if one partner in the relationship was like a sap. Is sap the right word?
Charlie:
Yeah.
Stacy:
Yeah?
Charlie:
Yeah.
Stacy:
To suck from the other person.
Charlie:
Uh, that would be more like a-
Stacy:
A leech.
Charlie:
A leech.
Stacy:
Yeah, like a like a financial leech, I think is not a good dynamic. So that's why I put money here.
Charlie:
Yeah. Okay.
Stacy:
Don't need you to be a millionaire anytime soon, but, uh.
Charlie:
Uh. Yeah, yeah. Okay. And again, this is you looking at me now?
Stacy:
Yes. For a long term marriage potential, I mean, it's too late for potential but.
Charlie:
Yeah. Okay. Okay.
Stacy:
That's that's my answer for that one.
Charlie:
Yeah. You've always been quite an independent person. You've always felt like you can make your own money. You can make enough money for yourself, haven't you? So that's probably an influence on that. Would you, would you be upset with your... would your ego be affected if you were not making any money and I was making all the money?
Stacy:
My ego might be a little bit upset. Um, I think I like having my own money. I think I would struggle to need to come to you if I wanted to buy something for myself.
Charlie:
Yeah.
Stacy:
I think that would be quite hard. Like if I wanted to go back to study or something, and you needed to pay for everything, I might find that kind of difficult.
Charlie:
Yeah, so would I.
Stacy:
Yeah.
Charlie:
Yeah.
Stacy:
We both need to still make money.
Charlie:
Yeah, yeah. Um. What did I say? Humour.
Stacy:
Humour.
Charlie:
Okay, so we're on the seventh.
Stacy:
Yeah.
Charlie:
Yeah. Okay. Three. Two. One. Occupation.
Stacy:
Sex.
Charlie:
Oh.
Stacy:
Ooh interesting. Why occupation?
Charlie:
Have you said occupation yet?
Stacy:
Nope.
Charlie:
Okay. I appreciated when I met you that I really liked dating a creative person.
Charlie:
We have come to the end of part two now, so again, feel free to pause the episode, to take a break from your listening practice and come back to the last part when you're ready. Alright, so moving on to part three now. Enjoy.
Charlie:
I remember dating somebody who had a similar interest to me, and it felt like we were rivals.
Stacy:
Ah. Oh I never thought about that.
Charlie:
Yeah. And I noticed that I preferred having no kind of.
Stacy:
Similarity.
Charlie:
Similarity in that sense. And that goes with, I think that goes with a lot of traits that you identify with personally.
Stacy:
Mhm.
Charlie:
Like that person she also tried to be the funny one.
Stacy:
Mhm.
Charlie:
And I felt like oh she likes the same area.
Stacy:
I'm the funny one. This is an example of how I make you laugh.
Charlie:
Ha ha. Very good, very good. No, I don't think I'm the funny one, but I think I try to bring humour to a conversation.
Stacy:
Okay. Yeah.
Charlie:
So I identify with that and that's what I was talking about. And same with creativity. Creative jobs I find it very inspiring.
Stacy:
Okay.
Charlie:
To appreciate.
Stacy:
Yeah.
Charlie:
Um, and yeah.
Stacy:
I thought I didn't care about occupation at all. I don't think I even think about it.
Charlie:
Really?
Stacy:
Yeah. When I thought about this, I thought the only way I would care about occupation is perhaps if you were, like, a stripper or something that did negative.
Charlie:
I've got something to tell you.
Stacy:
Or just if you did something that was maybe not a very nice job, like you weren't being a very nice person. That goes against like, the kindness. But I think...
Charlie:
What's a what's a job that would fall into that category for you?
Stacy:
Hmm.
Charlie:
Scamming old ladies?
Stacy:
Oh yes. I couldn't, I couldn't date a scammer. That would be really.
Charlie:
Do you reckon they would admit to that to their partner?
Stacy:
No.
Charlie:
Maybe they would get them in on it. Can you ring this old lady while I ring the other person?
Stacy:
Mhm. Yeah. And I think if it was a little bit mean or too selfish, I would find uh, like very much a turn off or I'd wouldn't like that.
Charlie:
What if I was developing a chemical in a laboratory and I assumed it was going to be for the greater good, but it ended up, uh...
Stacy:
Killing people?
Charlie:
Yes. That one.
Stacy:
I'd feel sorry for you.
Charlie:
Ah. So you'd stay with me out of pity, or you'd just stay with me for the sake of.
Stacy:
No, I'd stay with you because I would think your heart is in the right place.
Charlie:
Okay. Good.
Stacy:
Kindness.
Charlie:
Yeah. Right. Okay. Uh. Next one. Penultimate one.
Stacy:
Yeah.
Charlie:
Number eight. Three. Two. One. Money.
Stacy:
Children.
Charlie:
Children.
Stacy:
Not at the bottom.
Charlie:
How have we done? Are we in?
Stacy:
We are not in alignment at all. We only have. We only had honesty. I think that's the only one.
Charlie:
Yes, but I feel like a lot of them are fairly close. Am I completely.
Stacy:
I will need to compare at the end.
Charlie:
Yeah, I haven't kept tally. Could you just send me yours? Yeah, I'll send you.
Stacy:
Charlie. There you go.
Charlie:
Oh, I think I just sent you the list. You put kindness.
Stacy:
Yeah.
Charlie:
Intelligence is quite close.
Stacy:
Yeah.
Charlie:
Looks isn't. No. Money's quite low down. Sex. Children's low down. Occupation. Occupation is quite low. Okay. Should we get back to it?
Stacy:
Yeah. So you put money and I put children?
Charlie:
Yes. Yes.
Stacy:
I didn't think children needed to go at the bottom of the list, because we do both somewhat care about children. It's just not an immediate priority.
Charlie:
Can I just state we are not parents yet.
Stacy:
Yes. So that's why it's low on the list. If you, if we did this again in a few years time, then I'm sure that would be hopefully much higher on the list.
Charlie:
Yeah.
Stacy:
But in our current state of our relationship, it's not a priority.
Charlie:
Yeah, yeah. Okay. Should we just run through it at the same time again? Just to recap.
Stacy:
We haven't done the last one.
Charlie:
Oh well okay. Yeah, yeah, the last one I did.
Stacy:
Occupation.
Charlie:
Children.
Stacy:
Yeah okay.
Charlie:
So I put children because we haven't got children. We keep thinking about having children and we get put off the idea. So we're not really thinking about children. We are, but we're not. At the same time.
Stacy:
Comes up in conversation.
Charlie:
Yes. Occupation you put at the bottom.
Stacy:
Yeah.
Charlie:
That's a bit offensive.
Stacy:
Well, that I mean, I explained myself.
Charlie:
Yeah.
Stacy:
I don't care about it. It doesn't.
Charlie:
Yeah.
Stacy:
I don't find a certain type of occupation attractive.
Charlie:
Would you find it more attractive if I was saving lives?
Stacy:
Um, well, when I was thinking about occupation, I was actually thinking that I do quite like that you base your work around helping people and that you really like that. It kind of motivates you.
Charlie:
Mhm.
Stacy:
Um, to be helping.
Charlie:
Nice.
Stacy:
And contributing to people's language learning experience.
Charlie:
Okay. Yeah.
Stacy:
So I do like that. It's just.
Charlie:
What if I was a fireman? Would you find that very attractive or would that be a bit too risky? Give or take?
Stacy:
Give or take.
Charlie:
Give or take a fireman?
Stacy:
Yeah, not that bothered.
Charlie:
Don't need to be a stripper then, do I? Uh, okay, that's the end.
Stacy:
We're at the end.
Charlie:
Yeah.
Stacy:
We did terribly.
Charlie:
We did do terribly. I like that we have honesty.
Stacy:
We would not be allowed to get married if we did this.
Charlie:
Would we not!
Stacy:
No, I think we'd fail.
Charlie:
Is that the rule? That the church does not allow you to marry if?
Stacy:
I don't know, we...
Charlie:
Like go home and do some homework. Maybe sort out your morals.
Stacy:
But I think I might. I might try a bit harder to just guess what you were going to say if if we're actually being quizzed by an external person.
Charlie:
Oh I didn't think at all, I just thought.
Stacy:
We were being honest.
Charlie:
We were being honest!
Stacy:
You're laughing again!
Charlie:
And that is the end of the episode. Thank you very much for listening everybody. Thank you Stacy.
Stacy:
You're welcome.
Charlie:
You can go back to relaxing on your Friday evening.
Stacy:
Thank you.
Charlie:
Thank you guys. See you again soon on the British English Podcast. Bye bye Stacey.
Stacy:
Woo!
Charlie:
There we go. The end of part three. Meaning the end of the episode. Well done for getting through the entirety of it. Make sure you use all of the resources available to you in your membership. Thanks once again for supporting the show and I look forward to seeing you next time on the British English Podcast.
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Charlie:
Hello and welcome to the British English Podcast. Today's episode is a bitesize one and I am with my wife. We are in a new room, so it's all very exciting, isn't it?
Stacy:
It is.
Charlie:
Hello, darling.
Stacy:
Hello.
Charlie:
How are you?
Stacy:
I'm good, thank you. How are you?
Charlie:
I'm good. It's a Friday night. I've just done quite a long day of work, in my opinion. Uh, you've just cycled back from the gym. It's getting into cycle season for you.
Stacy:
It is.
Charlie:
Yeah. You're a fair weather cycler.
Stacy:
I am definitely a fair weather cycler.
Charlie:
Yeah. And today we are going to be going over a partner priorities list because my friend Amy, our friend Amy.
Stacy:
Our friend.
Charlie:
Um, she did this, and she told us that it would be a good idea to do. And I was like, let's do it on the podcast.
Stacy:
I think she did it as part of her pre-marriage counselling. She's just about to get married.
Charlie:
Oh, right.
Stacy:
Um, and because she's getting married in a church, I think this is like part of making sure they share the same values before they go into marital.
Charlie:
So it's probably not. But then.
Stacy:
We're too late for this.
Charlie:
It's too late?
Stacy:
We should have done this about a year ago.
Charlie:
We couldn't even get an annulment now, could we?
Stacy:
Um, no, I'm not sure.
Charlie:
Not sure.
Stacy:
Is it a year? I think no, no, I think now it would be a divorce.
Charlie:
Oh.
Stacy:
Not an annulment.
Charlie:
And that costs quite a lot, doesn't it?
Stacy:
Yes.
Charlie:
I can't afford it then. I'm stuck with you. Um, so the the game is, um, listing the nine priorities or nine, um, values, basically.
Stacy:
Yes. So we got given the list.
Charlie:
Yes. We got given a list of nine values. And we have to privately choose our priority list from 1 to 9. And then we see each other's and we compare and we see if we were at all compatible or not.
Stacy:
Yes. So I think the idea is that we would be semi aligned on our list. We should somewhat be prioritising similar things.
Charlie:
Okay, okay.
Stacy:
If we're not, we're in trouble.
Charlie:
Nice. So the list is honesty, ambition, children, as in you want to have children.
Stacy:
That's how I took it. I hope.
Charlie:
Uh, humour.
Stacy:
Uh-uh.
Charlie:
Looks.
Stacy:
Mm-hm.
Charlie:
Intelligence.
Stacy:
Mm-hm.
Charlie:
Money. As in they have money or they, they like money?
Stacy:
Um I, I took it as they make money.
Charlie:
Okay. Um, yes. That's the other option, isn't it?
Stacy:
Yeah.
Charlie:
Uh, occupation?
Stacy:
Uh-huh.
Charlie:
And then sex. I don't understand this three word. Three letter word.
Stacy:
I know, what is it?
Charlie:
I'm not sure.
Stacy:
Huh?
Charlie:
Uh, so that's the list. And we've already chosen ours.
Stacy:
Yes.
Charlie:
Um, how would you like to share it? Would you like? I think you send it to my WhatsApp and I send it to your WhatsApp so we can both see it and we go through it together.
Stacy:
No, I think.
Charlie:
I'd say I love marriage.
Stacy:
I think we should say the first one.
Charlie:
Oh say our first one out loud.
Stacy:
Yeah.
Charlie:
Oh okay.
Stacy:
Now like after like a one, two, three. What's number one.
Charlie:
That's good, that's good. Yeah. But. Before we go into this number one.
Stacy:
Yeah.
Charlie:
Um. It was a bit confusing for me because this is a partner list, and I've been with you since 2014, 15?
Stacy:
12? We met in 2012.
Charlie:
Hahaha. No, we met in 2012. But we weren't officially living together.
Stacy:
No. We started living together in 2015.
Charlie:
In a proper relationship and...So.
Stacy:
Yeah.
Charlie:
That was me at 25. I met you when I was 22.
Stacy:
Yeah.
Charlie:
And I'm looking at this list thinking, what did I think of you then? Because when I was that old, I was very different to what I am now.
Stacy:
I have written the list for today. Like how we feel today.
Charlie:
Oh, so you're back on the market.
Stacy:
Yeah.
Charlie:
Ah.
Stacy:
I haven't written it like when we first got together. That would be very different. Yeah, the order would be very different.
Charlie:
Mhm. Okay.
Stacy:
Money and sex would be at the top.
Charlie:
Right.
Stacy:
Do you need to rejig your answers?
Charlie:
We'll see. We'll see.
Stacy:
Okay.
Charlie:
Okay. So number one.
Stacy:
Oh hang on, I need to find it. Also I've got a bone to pick with this list.
Charlie:
Oh yeah?
Stacy:
Yeah. Their... I don't think it's a very good list.
Charlie:
Oh.
Stacy:
I think we can.
Charlie:
Yeah I mean where's reasonable in there?
Stacy:
Yeah. So I mean, if I were to redo the list, kindness would be number one.
Charlie:
Oh, yeah you like kindness.
Stacy:
But it's not on the list.
Charlie:
Okay. Alright. Let's, let's get to it. So number one. 3-2-1.
Both:
Honesty.
Charlie:
Oh my God. That was the same answer. Oh darling.
Stacy:
Honesty kind of is the most similar to kindness as well in a way.
Charlie:
Yes but I felt like honesty. For me, it's a given.
Stacy:
I almost needed to be reminded of it via this list.
Charlie:
Right.
Stacy:
To be like, oh, that's a thing that maybe some people don't have. And that was like, sad to think that some people don't have honesty in their relationship.
Charlie:
We do have a great amount of honesty.
Stacy:
We have too much honesty.
Charlie:
Yeah.
Stacy:
But I like it.
Charlie:
You're more honest than me.
Stacy:
No, you're more honest.
Charlie:
No.
Stacy:
Yeah.
Charlie:
No, no, because you you get away with saying stuff and then I say it and then you cry.
Stacy:
What do you mean?
Charlie:
Well, if you say I don't look good, I have to accept that.
Stacy:
Oh, we're talking about different kinds of honesty. That's just mean.
Charlie:
Oh, but you say it like you need to know.
Stacy:
Yeah, well, you know, you can't be offending me when it's my time of the month.
Charlie:
Oh, right. Okay.
Stacy:
Number two.
Charlie:
Alright. I'm gonna change it slightly.
Stacy:
Okay.
Charlie:
Okay. So number two. 3-2-1.
Stacy:
Ambition.
Charlie:
Looks.
Stacy:
Well.
Charlie:
That's a compliment.
Stacy:
That is a compliment. Thanks.
Charlie:
So you think ambition.
Stacy:
Wow. Looks isn't.
Charlie:
But but at the beginning of dating.
Stacy:
Oh. Yeah, well, I'm not going by the beginning.
Charlie:
If you're if you're looking at your ideal partner, you're out on the market.
Stacy:
Yeah, but again.
Charlie:
You're looking at me thinking like.
Stacy:
I didn't.
Charlie:
What do I think of what I like or what I want from this guy 15 years into the relationship?
Stacy:
Yes. But I maybe I understood the assignment wrong and I was just putting it as what we value now. And I think other people like Kim and Hugo, my brother and his partner just did this as well, and they did it based on their current situation.
Charlie:
Okay, I would I would probably put ambition second then. If I.
Stacy:
Really?
Charlie:
Yeah, yeah I would. I'm just looking at the other list, the other stuff and you're not doing. Joking. Sort of. Um, but I know I still think looks is. Yeah.
Stacy:
Yeah. Okay. Well that's nice. Thanks.
Charlie:
Yeah.
Stacy:
Looks is not very high on my list.
Charlie:
Ahh. Didn't really want to hear that. That's a bit rude. See what I mean? She can do it, but I can't. Honesty is a one way road in our relationship.
Stacy:
I think it is with most male female relationships.
Charlie:
Okay, okay. Alright. Number three.
Stacy:
Yeah. Oh. Hang on. Which one? Yeah. Number three.
Charlie:
Number three. Three. Two. One.
Stacy:
Humour.
Charlie:
Ambition. Yeah. Oh, humour.
Stacy:
Yeah.
Charlie:
Oh! What? Me. Nah. Get out!
Stacy:
I put it up here to remind you that I value it, and it's important. So please.
Charlie:
Uh! You! So Stacy annoys me a lot in in the way that our relationship is. So I, I think I try to be funny with other friends, but our relationship, it kind of ends up you just poking me in the bum and then you laugh and that's. And then I have to play this sort of, oh, don't do that sassy sort of response. And that is basically a metaphor for our relationship in, in around humour. You doing slapstick shit and I have to respond one way or another.
Stacy:
Yeah, yeah. I'm not disagreeing.
Charlie:
Okay, okay. Um, so you did that. I did ambition. Alright. Next one.
Stacy:
Okay. So so what number are we on? Four.
Charlie:
Four.
Stacy:
Okay.
Charlie:
Okay.
Stacy:
Hang on. You have to do a 3-2-1 countdown.
Charlie:
Yeah.
Stacy:
Are you putting sex?
Charlie:
See, I put sex second.
Stacy:
Wow.
Charlie:
But I put it there thinking this is me on the market.
Stacy:
Early on. Uh, we should have talked about this. We should have been really honest about our expectations for this episode.
Charlie:
That would be more transparent. I would say.
Stacy:
Oh, okay.
Charlie:
We are honest.
Stacy:
Yeah.
Charlie:
Still.
Stacy:
Yeah.
Charlie:
But yeah. Um, okay. So then I would put sex.
Stacy:
Okay. I've got intelligence.
Charlie:
Intelligence.
Stacy:
And actually this one.
Charlie:
It's good though. I give you loads of fun facts that you don't remember. And then a year later you tell me somebody else told you that, and you're like, did you know this? Oh, that annoys me.
Stacy:
I was gonna say that with intelligence, I don't think that I was aware that this was important to me until probably.
Charlie:
You met me?
Stacy:
No. Until maybe the last few years, where I've been more aware of conversations. And I think sometimes when conversations have, like, a depth of intelligence, I am really fascinated and I do like it when you tell me things that I...
Charlie:
Forget.
Stacy:
Find very interesting and that I don't know, and that you have a a heightened level of intelligence for many topics. And I like that.
Charlie:
Wow.
Stacy:
Yeah.
Charlie:
I'm impressed by all this. I'm... Making me a bit shy.
Stacy:
Are you blushing?
Charlie:
Yeah. Yeah, I actually am. It is the headphone. They are quite hot, but. Yeah. Nice. Appreciate that.
Stacy:
Um, so sex was number number four for yours?
Charlie:
Well, it was number two then it went down to four.
Stacy:
Okay, so I have a bone to pick with sex being on the list, but I guess if if this is an early on in the relationship, then that's fine. I was going to say.
Charlie:
Why is sex even a thing.
Stacy:
I think sex should be replaced with a word intimacy.
Charlie:
I like it.
Stacy:
Then that would be much higher up on my list because I value intimacy very highly. But sex itself, give or take.
Charlie:
Oh, come on, don't say that. I've got to air this stuff.
Stacy:
But intimacy. We love intimacy.
Charlie:
I'm really red now. Oh, God. Okay. Number five.
Stacy:
Number five.
Charlie:
I think. Yeah, yeah. Number five. Right. One, two, three, four five.
Stacy:
We're not doing very well.
Charlie:
No, we're doing terribly, but let's keep going. Okay. So number five in 3-2-1 intelligence.
Stacy:
Looks.
Charlie:
Looks is number five for you. Great. Intelligence number five for me.
Stacy:
See, I don't think I care about looks.
Charlie:
That's awful. Further down the list.
Stacy:
Yeah.
Charlie:
It's really just saying... It's not nice.
Stacy:
No, it was hard. I mulled over this for quite a while.
Charlie:
Brutal, actually. Okay.
Stacy:
But I, just to say.
Charlie:
I appreciate, like I appreciate that we both don't have children yet.
Stacy:
Yeah.
Charlie:
In the top five.
Stacy:
And my brother and his partner, children was both their number one.
Charlie:
Number one.
Stacy:
Yeah.
Charlie:
Actually, Hugo had always wanted to be a dad.
Stacy:
Yeah. Yeah, yeah. Um, just to say that looks is, I guess, a little bit further down my list because although I see, I think looks is very important to begin with. But again, I think this was just something I take for granted. You look...
Charlie:
Oh cool. Good, good.
Stacy:
You look quite nice and I like the way you look, and therefore I didn't need to.
Charlie:
It's it's hard when it's staring you in the face.
Stacy:
I know.
Charlie:
It's hard to appreciate.
Stacy:
Yeah.
Charlie:
The value of it.
Stacy:
Of such looks.
Charlie:
You know, we don't we don't really appreciate that we have clean water, accessible water unless there's a parasite in it. Um, I don't know.
Stacy:
Is that an example of something intelligent you told me today?
Charlie:
Yes. Yes, it is actually.
Stacy:
But then again, your your intelligence is just regurgitating, regurgitating ChatGPT.
Charlie:
No.
Stacy:
Yes.
Charlie:
Somewhat. No No no no no no no no.
Stacy:
Are you well read?
Charlie:
I'm well listened. I listened to a lot of podcasts. Um, not just mine. Alright. The next one.
Stacy:
Number...
Charlie:
Number six. 3456.3-2-1. Humour.
Stacy:
Money.
Charlie:
See, I think money, occupation, maybe ambition and children, they're. I think they're not so... Actually, no ambition, maybe not. But those three I would say if they're on the bottom of the list, it's not rude, but anything else is. Well, maybe it's just subjective, but I feel like me saying humour at the bottom of the list is a bit rude to you, isn't it?
Stacy:
Yeah, it is, because I'm really funny.
Charlie:
Yeah, you really know how to make me laugh.
Stacy:
I do, I make you laugh every single day.
Charlie:
Do you think?
Stacy:
Yeah, absolutely. Every single day that you have spent with me, you have laughed because of me.
Charlie:
I laughed a lot the other day when you fell down that hole. She was running along with our dog. Our sausage dog. Don't need to run with a sausage dog.
Stacy:
She loves to run! She's so excited when you run with her.
Charlie:
I looked away, I looked back and she was on the floor. She was rolling around.
Stacy:
There was a hole!
Charlie:
And there was a hole in the field.
Stacy:
Yeah.
Charlie:
Completely took you out.
Stacy:
Yeah.
Charlie:
Another fond memory of mine is when we went paddling, uh, paddle boarding.
Stacy:
Why are you mentioning this?
Charlie:
Just humour. You make me laugh.
Stacy:
No. This is you laughing at my.
Charlie:
Well, that's how I laugh every day.
Stacy:
Injuries. While making a fool of myself. I make you laugh all the time.
Charlie:
Really?
Stacy:
Yeah.
Charlie:
What? Not at you?
Stacy:
No.
Charlie:
Oh right?
Stacy:
Yeah.
Charlie:
Okay.
Stacy:
I give you lots.
Charlie:
Just mention it next time.
Stacy:
Okay.
Charlie:
Just call me out on it. Be interested.
Stacy:
Give you a reminder.
Charlie:
Do you want me to tell people about the paddleboarding?
Stacy:
No, no, you can if you want to.
Charlie:
Have I told it on this? I don't think so.
Stacy:
Uh, you might have done.
Charlie:
We have come to the end of part one, so feel free to take a break from your listening practice, but if you're happy to keep going, then we're now moving on to part two of this episode. Thanks so much for being a premium or Academy member and enjoy the rest of the show.
Charlie:
It's worth saying again.
Stacy:
Just in case. It might make a good-
Charlie:
We were in a little river in Germany.
Stacy:
Mhm.
Charlie:
Stacy said you've got to come paddleboarding. I was a bit dubious, a bit unsure about this activity.
Stacy:
Mhm.
Charlie:
But I was up for it. You got me on and they were quite substantial paddle boards and so you said you don't need to take your shoes off. So we had our shoes on.
Stacy:
Yeah.
Charlie:
I thought this was weird because I thought we would be going in the river at some point. So we both had our trainers on, on these paddle boards going down the river. You were ahead of me. I was behind you. You were taking in the views, I imagine, and I was still learning the ropes, still figuring out what going forward means. Going left, going right, how to stop. I hadn't quite figured out that one. How to stop. And you know when something's happening and you just don't really react to it. That was kind of what was happening for me. I could see that my board was coming closer and closer and closer to your the tail of your board, very slowly.
Stacy:
Yeah.
Charlie:
But you were standing up looking the other way. Little nudge. All it did. All. All it needed. And that caused you to stumble back, trip over yourself, fall backwards over your head. Roly poly backwards over the sur- over the paddle board into the water. Submerge fully. Come back up looking like a drowned rat. Grabbed the paddle board and then your bikini came off. So you were looking up at me like a drowned rat with your tits out, going, what did you do that for? Oh. To this day, that still makes me laugh. So yes, you do make me laugh every day.
Stacy:
Do I just need to remind you of that story every day? Okay. Well. You're welcome.
Charlie:
Yeah.
Stacy:
Yeah. Not my finest moment.
Charlie:
Okay.
Stacy:
Yes. We've been 20 minutes, though.
Charlie:
Okay.
Stacy:
Um, it doesn't need to be a lot of money, but I value a moderate, like, a modest amount of money, I think.
Charlie:
Okay.
Stacy:
You need to earn something because I don't think it would be a good dynamic if one partner in the relationship was like a sap. Is sap the right word?
Charlie:
Yeah.
Stacy:
Yeah?
Charlie:
Yeah.
Stacy:
To suck from the other person.
Charlie:
Uh, that would be more like a-
Stacy:
A leech.
Charlie:
A leech.
Stacy:
Yeah, like a like a financial leech, I think is not a good dynamic. So that's why I put money here.
Charlie:
Yeah. Okay.
Stacy:
Don't need you to be a millionaire anytime soon, but, uh.
Charlie:
Uh. Yeah, yeah. Okay. And again, this is you looking at me now?
Stacy:
Yes. For a long term marriage potential, I mean, it's too late for potential but.
Charlie:
Yeah. Okay. Okay.
Stacy:
That's that's my answer for that one.
Charlie:
Yeah. You've always been quite an independent person. You've always felt like you can make your own money. You can make enough money for yourself, haven't you? So that's probably an influence on that. Would you, would you be upset with your... would your ego be affected if you were not making any money and I was making all the money?
Stacy:
My ego might be a little bit upset. Um, I think I like having my own money. I think I would struggle to need to come to you if I wanted to buy something for myself.
Charlie:
Yeah.
Stacy:
I think that would be quite hard. Like if I wanted to go back to study or something, and you needed to pay for everything, I might find that kind of difficult.
Charlie:
Yeah, so would I.
Stacy:
Yeah.
Charlie:
Yeah.
Stacy:
We both need to still make money.
Charlie:
Yeah, yeah. Um. What did I say? Humour.
Stacy:
Humour.
Charlie:
Okay, so we're on the seventh.
Stacy:
Yeah.
Charlie:
Yeah. Okay. Three. Two. One. Occupation.
Stacy:
Sex.
Charlie:
Oh.
Stacy:
Ooh interesting. Why occupation?
Charlie:
Have you said occupation yet?
Stacy:
Nope.
Charlie:
Okay. I appreciated when I met you that I really liked dating a creative person.
Charlie:
We have come to the end of part two now, so again, feel free to pause the episode, to take a break from your listening practice and come back to the last part when you're ready. Alright, so moving on to part three now. Enjoy.
Charlie:
I remember dating somebody who had a similar interest to me, and it felt like we were rivals.
Stacy:
Ah. Oh I never thought about that.
Charlie:
Yeah. And I noticed that I preferred having no kind of.
Stacy:
Similarity.
Charlie:
Similarity in that sense. And that goes with, I think that goes with a lot of traits that you identify with personally.
Stacy:
Mhm.
Charlie:
Like that person she also tried to be the funny one.
Stacy:
Mhm.
Charlie:
And I felt like oh she likes the same area.
Stacy:
I'm the funny one. This is an example of how I make you laugh.
Charlie:
Ha ha. Very good, very good. No, I don't think I'm the funny one, but I think I try to bring humour to a conversation.
Stacy:
Okay. Yeah.
Charlie:
So I identify with that and that's what I was talking about. And same with creativity. Creative jobs I find it very inspiring.
Stacy:
Okay.
Charlie:
To appreciate.
Stacy:
Yeah.
Charlie:
Um, and yeah.
Stacy:
I thought I didn't care about occupation at all. I don't think I even think about it.
Charlie:
Really?
Stacy:
Yeah. When I thought about this, I thought the only way I would care about occupation is perhaps if you were, like, a stripper or something that did negative.
Charlie:
I've got something to tell you.
Stacy:
Or just if you did something that was maybe not a very nice job, like you weren't being a very nice person. That goes against like, the kindness. But I think...
Charlie:
What's a what's a job that would fall into that category for you?
Stacy:
Hmm.
Charlie:
Scamming old ladies?
Stacy:
Oh yes. I couldn't, I couldn't date a scammer. That would be really.
Charlie:
Do you reckon they would admit to that to their partner?
Stacy:
No.
Charlie:
Maybe they would get them in on it. Can you ring this old lady while I ring the other person?
Stacy:
Mhm. Yeah. And I think if it was a little bit mean or too selfish, I would find uh, like very much a turn off or I'd wouldn't like that.
Charlie:
What if I was developing a chemical in a laboratory and I assumed it was going to be for the greater good, but it ended up, uh...
Stacy:
Killing people?
Charlie:
Yes. That one.
Stacy:
I'd feel sorry for you.
Charlie:
Ah. So you'd stay with me out of pity, or you'd just stay with me for the sake of.
Stacy:
No, I'd stay with you because I would think your heart is in the right place.
Charlie:
Okay. Good.
Stacy:
Kindness.
Charlie:
Yeah. Right. Okay. Uh. Next one. Penultimate one.
Stacy:
Yeah.
Charlie:
Number eight. Three. Two. One. Money.
Stacy:
Children.
Charlie:
Children.
Stacy:
Not at the bottom.
Charlie:
How have we done? Are we in?
Stacy:
We are not in alignment at all. We only have. We only had honesty. I think that's the only one.
Charlie:
Yes, but I feel like a lot of them are fairly close. Am I completely.
Stacy:
I will need to compare at the end.
Charlie:
Yeah, I haven't kept tally. Could you just send me yours? Yeah, I'll send you.
Stacy:
Charlie. There you go.
Charlie:
Oh, I think I just sent you the list. You put kindness.
Stacy:
Yeah.
Charlie:
Intelligence is quite close.
Stacy:
Yeah.
Charlie:
Looks isn't. No. Money's quite low down. Sex. Children's low down. Occupation. Occupation is quite low. Okay. Should we get back to it?
Stacy:
Yeah. So you put money and I put children?
Charlie:
Yes. Yes.
Stacy:
I didn't think children needed to go at the bottom of the list, because we do both somewhat care about children. It's just not an immediate priority.
Charlie:
Can I just state we are not parents yet.
Stacy:
Yes. So that's why it's low on the list. If you, if we did this again in a few years time, then I'm sure that would be hopefully much higher on the list.
Charlie:
Yeah.
Stacy:
But in our current state of our relationship, it's not a priority.
Charlie:
Yeah, yeah. Okay. Should we just run through it at the same time again? Just to recap.
Stacy:
We haven't done the last one.
Charlie:
Oh well okay. Yeah, yeah, the last one I did.
Stacy:
Occupation.
Charlie:
Children.
Stacy:
Yeah okay.
Charlie:
So I put children because we haven't got children. We keep thinking about having children and we get put off the idea. So we're not really thinking about children. We are, but we're not. At the same time.
Stacy:
Comes up in conversation.
Charlie:
Yes. Occupation you put at the bottom.
Stacy:
Yeah.
Charlie:
That's a bit offensive.
Stacy:
Well, that I mean, I explained myself.
Charlie:
Yeah.
Stacy:
I don't care about it. It doesn't.
Charlie:
Yeah.
Stacy:
I don't find a certain type of occupation attractive.
Charlie:
Would you find it more attractive if I was saving lives?
Stacy:
Um, well, when I was thinking about occupation, I was actually thinking that I do quite like that you base your work around helping people and that you really like that. It kind of motivates you.
Charlie:
Mhm.
Stacy:
Um, to be helping.
Charlie:
Nice.
Stacy:
And contributing to people's language learning experience.
Charlie:
Okay. Yeah.
Stacy:
So I do like that. It's just.
Charlie:
What if I was a fireman? Would you find that very attractive or would that be a bit too risky? Give or take?
Stacy:
Give or take.
Charlie:
Give or take a fireman?
Stacy:
Yeah, not that bothered.
Charlie:
Don't need to be a stripper then, do I? Uh, okay, that's the end.
Stacy:
We're at the end.
Charlie:
Yeah.
Stacy:
We did terribly.
Charlie:
We did do terribly. I like that we have honesty.
Stacy:
We would not be allowed to get married if we did this.
Charlie:
Would we not!
Stacy:
No, I think we'd fail.
Charlie:
Is that the rule? That the church does not allow you to marry if?
Stacy:
I don't know, we...
Charlie:
Like go home and do some homework. Maybe sort out your morals.
Stacy:
But I think I might. I might try a bit harder to just guess what you were going to say if if we're actually being quizzed by an external person.
Charlie:
Oh I didn't think at all, I just thought.
Stacy:
We were being honest.
Charlie:
We were being honest!
Stacy:
You're laughing again!
Charlie:
And that is the end of the episode. Thank you very much for listening everybody. Thank you Stacy.
Stacy:
You're welcome.
Charlie:
You can go back to relaxing on your Friday evening.
Stacy:
Thank you.
Charlie:
Thank you guys. See you again soon on the British English Podcast. Bye bye Stacey.
Stacy:
Woo!
Charlie:
There we go. The end of part three. Meaning the end of the episode. Well done for getting through the entirety of it. Make sure you use all of the resources available to you in your membership. Thanks once again for supporting the show and I look forward to seeing you next time on the British English Podcast.
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